BBC Religion & Ethics - What happens when Muslims and Christians tie the knot?
Christian pastors and Muslim imams have come together to draw up asked by the Christian Muslim Forum to give advice for the guidelines. Do you want to learn more about a current relationship? If you're Do you think that marriage between a Christian man and a Muslim woman could work?. I'm Christian, My Husband Is Muslim — This Is How It Works . I legitimately do not believe that he would have wanted me to turn it away. . I too had a inter- religion relationship, but I decided to leave and it's the best decision.
But depth is not the only goal we have for our children. We want to help them become religiously literate citizens, giving them breadth as well. So, we read the Bible and the Ramayana.
We sing gospels and chant mantras. We talk about the Buddha and tell folk religion origin stories. We build sukkahs and release our clay Ganeshas into the ocean. We decorate our Christmas tree and light our menorah. We talk about peace, justice, compassion, generosity and God — referencing religions far beyond our own, across time, distance, and culture. Despite all this, some people still ask us, exasperated: It makes sense that so many of us dream, initially at least, that we will find true love with a person who shares the same religious label, because we think it means they have walked the same religious path that we have.
We naturally look for someone who has made the same leaps of faith, who has gone through the same internal transformation, who nods along knowingly as we describe our indescribable connection to something invisible. We imagine someone who gets us, who shares the same truth or God or gods that we do, or, perhaps, who has uttered the same denials as us, or who remains as steadfastly unsure about the meaning of it all as we ourselves are.
The assumption here is that sharing the same religion is a shortcut to deeper unity. I stopped living to please people.
I started to become honest with my feelings and myself.
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And in the vain of honesty — the true reason why I had wanted to marry a Christian guy was because it just sounded right. People would look at us and think we have all our shit together. And that feeling of admiration from others — I wanted that. I wanted to be the status quo but the truth is, that when you follow God, there is no such thing as being the status quo. God now have a divine place in MY life.
When my husband came into my life, he not only knew this but he understood this and wanted to help me on this journey. But God knew I n-e-e-d-e-d this love.
I legitimately do not believe that he would have wanted me to turn it away. Love is very strong, stronger than we can even fathom. This is what happened to me. It still humbles me that this force that makes leaves and fleas and stars and rivers and you, loves me. I am really blessed to have what I have and who I have in my life.
I have worked hard to get here. I wanted to run as fast as I could to the front to be with my maker. It is actually quite remarkable that the picture I once had in my head at the start still manifested in some shape. A devoted, but at the same time accepting Muslim is much more preferable to me.
We can pray at the same time. A friend said to me, "Now you have twice as many religious holidays! There have been times that I have taken part and fasted during Ramadan or at least didn't eat in Khaled's presence. In the evenings we had a great time cooking together.
Will your children be Christian or Muslim? We don't have any yet. But that is definitely our biggest problem. We both agree we don't want to tear them apart.
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We decided that we will bring them up in both religions without polarizing them. When they are older they can decide for themselves. And without question, they should never feel like they have to choose between us!
What would you recommend to other Christian-Muslim couples? Before the actual ceremony, they need to get everything out in the open. And most of all, they need to choose their partners well.
Be prepared from the beginning on to see the differences as opportunities.