Healthy Family Relationships | Teens & The Relationship ABCs
Healthy communication skills for a relationship are all about respect, honesty, listening, and being open with your feelings and what you want. Accept that your adolescent may have a different view of the world and respect their opinions. Good communication is about the way we talk and listen, and about our body mediation, dispute resolution, relationship and parenting skills education.
Thus, such risky activities may include drug use, unsafe sexual behavior, and unsafe driving. Now scientists have concrete proof of the negative effect of peer pressure. Research using brain-imaging technology shows that teens experiencing peer pressure are more likely to make risky decisions.
In addition, their brains showed significantly higher responses to potential rewards when they were told untruthfully that another teenager was watching from another room. Adults, by contrast, showed no change when they were told that they were being watched. In another, related study, younger teenagers took twice as many risks in a timed driving simulation when with peers, as opposed to when they were tested alone.
Furthermore, older teenagers took 50 percent more risks when doing the driving simulations with friends, rather than alone.
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Consequently, peer pressure is real. The scientists who conducted the experiments with teens and gambling discovered positive consequences as well. In fact, teens who believed they were being watched while gambling showed the following positive behaviors, as opposed to those who played alone: Tried out new ways of approaching the game Learned faster from both positive and negative outcomes Achieved better performance on the task.
But parents can and should talk to their teens about what friendships should feel like. Moreover, they can help them understand how to be a good friend. Here are some of the most important things teens should know about friendship. Authentic Connection The best teen friendships allow teenagers to speak honestly and openly about how they are feeling.
Moreover, they can do so without fear of being judged or insulted.
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This kind of authentic connection will support them during adolescence and beyond. The Power of Listening Friendships depend on listening as well as sharing. Strong teen friendships depend on listening closely and responding with compassion, encouragement, and positive feedback.
Peer Pressure When teens understand the power of peer pressure, they can make clearer decisions. Parents can help them recognize how friends influence each other, in both positive and negative ways. It Takes Time As the above study showed, it takes time to make a good friend.
Therefore, teens often make good friends at camp, on sports teams, or in extracurricular activities. Is it difficult to discuss because you think I might judge you, or that it will reflect badly on your grade?
The above is a basic example of the natural flow of a conversation. I once had a business mentor who would talk about Big Hairy Audacious Goals BHAGs as a way to get us thinking about the larger organizational goals we needed to be successful. Close your eyes if you feel comfortable and sit in a comfortable position. Start by taking a few breaths in and a few breaths out … notice what it feels like to breath in your body … notice all the sensations associated with breathing … the expansion of the belly or chest, the touch of the air on your nostrils … use the breath to bring your mind into the present moment … simply breathing in, and breathing out.
Next, I want to invite you to think about yourself 10 years into the future. I want you to think about what success is.
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Think about yourself as a huge success. What does that mean to you? Where are you waking up every morning?
What type of job do you have? Do you have family? If so, how many children? Then ask what makes relationships good and what makes them bad? Along the way, if you need advice, feel free to contact us. Relationships that are not healthy are based on power and control, not equality and respect. In the early stages of an abusive relationship, you may not think the unhealthy behaviors are a big deal. However, possessiveness, insults, jealous accusations, yelling, humiliation, pulling hair, pushing or other abusive behaviors, are — at their root — exertions of power and control.
Remember that abuse is always a choice and you deserve to be respected.
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There is no excuse for abuse of any kind. Consider these points as you move forward: Understand that a person can only change if they want to. Focus on your own needs. Are you taking care of yourself? Your wellness is always important. Watch your stress levels, take time to be with friends, get enough sleep. If you find that your relationship is draining you, consider ending it. Connect with your support systems. Often, abusers try to isolate their partners.
Remember, our advocates are always ready to talk if you need a listening ear.Rick Weissbourd - Teens' Romantic Relationships