Everyone Needs Therapy: Rubberband
Rubberband theory is a way of thinking about relationships that has been around for as old as time. If your mother recommended that you play. The concept of resilience is complex, yet simple. It is as simple as the metaphor of a rubber band. Rubber bands, like people, come in different sizes and are. I start my leadership classes by giving everyone a rubber band and ask them to “ play” with it! There are many ways they can do that! Stretch it.
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The Rubber Band Theory | bluntlysaid
References to people, with the exception of myself, and events except those about me, and even some of those, are entirely fictional. Tuesday, April 28, Rubberband November I wrote about the casual relationshipotherwise known as friends with benefits. Thanks to a recent comment, we're getting back to it. To do this I am recommending you also watch a new video, PG for those of you who worry, the first and perhaps last video featuring a therapydoc who poses as me, of all people, on the Everyone Needs Therapy YouTube Channel.
The video requires a post in and of itself, so you'll have to wait a bit for more about the casual relationship and the inherent problems of these dyads. Rubberband theory is a way of thinking about relationships that has been around for as old as time.
If your mother recommended that you play hard to get, she has an intuitive understanding of the psychological process inherent in the theory, a part of it. Relationships aren't games, however, and there is no need to play games with people.
Intimacy can be fun, but frankly, it is psychological work. Just try to make it a game of it. Do read his book about planets. The theory here, the one that I learned, is that a people need people, most of us do b we also need individual space, uninterrupted psychological space in which to think, to live our lives; time to be creative, to work and to relax, all by ourselves c most relationships start somehow and succeed when the needs of two people for psychological space match.
This often explains why parents tend to suffocate teenagers when they breathe within close proximity. A physics major might explain it better, but the needs just don't match.
But let's talk about love and being in a "relationship" that is intimate, although the theory underlies all relationships, parent-child, employer-employee, teacher-student, brother-sister, etc. We start out as people attracted to one another and subtly negotiate how often we'll talk, get together in vivo, in person. Maybe it's a first date and one of us can't wait for the other to call, to initiate time together. When I met FD a random meeting at a student union he asked me for my phone number, but I wouldn't give it to him until he confirmed that he would call, not crumble it up and throw it away.
My need for space at the time wasn't sufficiently broad enough to allow, say, a week to go by without hearing from him. He called within forty seconds, not a dumb guy.
You have to know yourself and your needs and be true to them. So here you are, knowing you need someone in your life and somehow someone pops up, seems to be interested in playing this role. And it's going well until one of you needs more space. The one who needs more space will just take it, usually, for there are no real chains, no leashes in relationships.The Rubber Band Theory
No one can force anyone else to be with them, to communicate, make love, or even play. And when the person who needs space is gone too long, other songs, angry or sad songs become the songs of the day. Emotionally mature people realize that the center of life, the focus of a partner, a significant other, even a friend, cannot be, should not be, themselves. I do have an excellent coach and we do work hard, but do not overtrain.
I have learned more from this dog than I can tell you. I think our success is a combination of hard work, patience and relationship. I did not give up on this dog, and I believe I have learned more from him than I would have had he been easy. I think I am better at it too. He is a blast to work with, but I will never underestimate my first guy and never stop working with him until he retires. Genetics is something, but not everything!!! BJ Walker 7 years ago I have a very high drive three year old bearded collie who goes over the top very easily.
The more we train and trial, the worse she has become.
We did foundation work for the 1st 2 years of her life before beginning to compete. She also taught herself to sit and wait for treats, and was very easy to teach to play tug. A thinking dog from the beginning!
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Since I know the line very well, I can see where this behavior comes from. I have been as consistent as I know how, am calm on the course, but sassy barking and fly offs on the contacts are becoming more and more prevalent.
The Rubber Band Hypothesis
Is this all she can do? If you keep stretching the small one trying to get it to passs the longer one, it will break. And in the case of an athlete, the genes do limit what maximum level an athlete can reach. I would argue that with very few exceptions maybe nonefull potential is never reached.
What an athlete may lack in talent can be made up and surpassed with in training. When choosing my next companion I must understand my own shortcomings [how far my rubber band will stretch] For myself and at my age it will be important that to develop into a well oiled team my dog must have drive, able to work at a distance, take direction, and have confidence in my handling.